The Empath’s Guide to Sexuality is a monthly series featuring the writings of Samantha Daveena, yogini and birth doula from Toronto, Canada. Sex, as a vital creative force in our lives, is a topic that’s ripe for discussion in practical, yet also energetic and spiritual terms. How are sex and sexuality different for the sensitive woman? How do we approach sexual health and manage our sexual exchanges in the spirit of self-care and self-love? Join us as we explore these topics and more…
Now that we are all familiar with the physical bits and pieces of our divine womanhood, it’s time to come to terms with our more subtle anatomy – the chakra system!
The Chakra System
What does the word ‘chakra’ mean to you? If you have never encountered this concept before, now is the best time to begin learning. There are many resources becoming available online and through workshops and classes that can help guide your path. An excellent place to start would be by reading ‘Anatomy of the Spirit’ by Caroline Myss. It has been a great help to me and many of the healers I’ve encountered.
The term chakra originates from the Sanskrit language, and roughly translates to ‘wheel’. In the science of yoga and Ayurveda, chakras are recognized as concentrated whirling energy centres in the body. They are connected to nerve bundles and organ systems, and each of the seven chakras have very unique and distinct functions and characteristics. Each chakra in our body governs a particular set of emotions, fears and motives that relate to the physical organ system it is associated with.
As an empath, you already know that emotions are felt in your body. Stomach butterflies, heartbreak and gut wrenching fear are familiar to us all. A firm understanding of the chakra system will enable you to identify where in your body emotions are held, and allow you to trace the repercussions of certain events, traumas, and milestones.
Each chakra is a center of various types of power that we interact with. The sacral chakra in particular corresponds with creative power, sexual power, financial or material power (wealth), and survival. It is located in the pelvic region and influences the function of the sexual organs, bladder and general hip area. According to ancient Ayurvedic medicine, a buildup of discord in the sacral chakra can eventually manifest as a disruption in these organ systems.
The primary fear of this chakra points to situations in which we may lose power in this energy centre. Loss of control is the focal fear here, and can manifest in many ways for us, some of which include:
- poverty or financial loss.
Even if you have not been involved in any of these situations in a literal sense, they are essentially broad categories for different types of energy exchanges that we may have throughout our lives. Abandonment for instance may immediately bring up the idea of being orphaned by one’s family of origin, however this can also include situations in which a business partner pulls out, or a lover decides to stop returning your phone calls.
Another important thing to note is that energy exchange is a two way street. If you feel that none of your boundaries have been crossed in terms of loss of control, you may want to consider if you have been on the opposite end of this power struggle, playing the role of the dominator or oppressor. If you have consciously or subconsciously participated in any of these types of power plays that left the other person feeling abandoned, dominated, raped, betrayed or impoverished, these acts will leave an effect on you as well as the receiver.
As empaths, a great place to observe the ebb and flow of sacral chakra energy is by taking note of our partnerships and sexual interactions. When we are involved in unhealthy partnerships and sexual behaviour, this can take a huge toll on that energy centre and all of the areas in our life which are governed by our sacral power. It is important to note that what is unhealthy for one person may be a very happy situation for another, especially in the realm of sexual preference and experimentation. Because we are dealing with energy exchanges, the key factor in determining what is unhealthy is intention and interpretation.
Various physical imbalances may also be a result of these unhealthy energy exchanges. As empaths, part of our self-care involves to becoming in tune with our body and energetic field. A great way of doing this is to perform regular body scans to quietly feel out the sensations that are present in each area of your body and the chakras. Here are a few key points to look for when scanning the sacral region:
- sensations of cold or heat
- engorgement (increased blood flow)
- sexual arousal
- physical pain
As you regularly perform these check-ins you will start to notice what is normal for you. If you are a woman, you may even take note of the variation between different times in your cycle. Sometimes what is normal and familiar may not actually be good for us. Only you can tell what is healthy for you, and as your awareness becomes more acute, you will also begin to detect when you are experiencing blockages, or a change in energy from this region. After awareness, the next step toward health will be making conscious changes in the way you deal with this power.
In the next part of this series, we will work on a bit of sacral chakra ‘troubleshooting’ and learn ways in which we can achieve and maintain healthier sexual energy.
(Art by Dhira Lawrence)
Samantha Daveena is a yogini and birth doula in Toronto, Canada. She is passionate about natural wellness and empowered womanhood. Samantha has studied and practiced as a holistic therapist, and brings much of her knowledge to her writing. She finds peace in drawing mandalas and dancing to oriental drum solos in her room. Visit her website & follow her on Instagram @sam.daveena.