In a new weekly feature, Dana of Empathic Translation will be sharing her views as well as practical tips on understanding and managing your sensitivity as an Empath.
Ok, so you have discovered you are a “Sensitive” – likely identifying yourself as an HSP or an Empath. What are you going to do now?
You are going to set some (very detailed) boundaries! I’m not talking about limiting yourself as a human being, I am talking about BOUNDARIES. This means drawing very clear lines which others ARE. NOT. TO. CROSS. And if they do – you have very clear cut, proactive strategies in place to keep yourself balanced.
Here’s the thing about those who are “Normal” (aka not the beautifully complex human beings that we are); they are NEEDY mother f-ers. And listen, I LOVE human beings, they are my favorite creature on this planet – but the truth hurts. And the truth about most human beings are that, they just don’t get it. Now, my hope is that at some point in your own self-discovery, you will understand the depths of what “it” is. Once you do, it gets easier to maintain balance within yourself as you remain completely detached from emotions and vibrational chaos that is not yours to feel responsible for.
Speaking of responsibility – YOU are your own responsibility. Once you understand this, boundaries are fairly easy to develop and to live by. Others laugh at me when I send them my “Boundaries Bible” because it is so detailed that it almost makes it seems like interacting with other humans is dangerous. Well, as an HSP/Empath, IT IS! This is why most of us are hot wired to run or to defend ourselves all the time – because we understand the inner fury of others and perceive even the slightest of angst within others as assaultive to our state of being. That is a fair reason to feel hyper-sensitive and fearful of your environment.
Basic psychology states that we only FEAR what we do not understand – and admittedly as an HSP or an Empath, we do not always understand the rationale behind what we are feeling, we just know it’s there. This would make anyone “insane.” Einstein says that “Insanity is doing the same thing the same way and expecting a different result.” – so put those together and BOOM, boundaries will keep you SANE! (Did we all just have an Epiphany? An “a-hah” moment? No? Not yet? Ok, I’ll elaborate).
1) A definite place where YOUR responsibility for another person ends and their responsibility for themselves begins. A line clearly established where you stop doing things for others that they should be doing for themselves.
2) An agreement with yourself that stops you from feeling obligated to rescue someone from the consequences of their own destructive behaviors (which they need to experience to evolve themselves) and stops you from feeling guilty for the consequences someone experiences for the actions they’re taking.